Whenever I make myself and my own feelings the only important part of a conversation or relationship, I am the problem. When I put my desires over the consideration of others, I am the problem. When I fail to see other people as regular human beings, I am the problem.
The only way to solve this problem is to put myself in my proper place. Everyone has feelings, desires, and needs, and that those might be different than mine. I must realize that everyone is human. I must see people and interact with people the way that Jesus did – with love. If I can treat people with God’s kind of love, every interaction I have will be different.
It’s amazing how much good we can do if we stop pointing fingers at others and point at ourselves first. I am the problem.
(For more on this topic, I recommend the book: Leadership and Self Deception, by the Arbinger Group)